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I've been introduced to several Coptic Orthodox men, but there is always something that seems not to work out. I always pray for God to reveal His will to me; but I'm starting to get discouraged thinking that perhaps I'm not meant to get married. I don't know how I would handle being single without a family of my own. Could your Grace please advise me.

God created man in His own image and likeness as male and female with the intent that they live together in harmony as one. The goal in marriage is not to search for someone who will please me, but rather to find a person who is mature spiritually; capable of building a Christian home.

Marriage is not seen just as a social and civil arrangement, neither is it a license for physical union. It is undertaken in the presence of God and regulated by God's commandments.

When choosing a mate, the basis should neither be beauty nor wealth. Love should start in the mind not the heart. It is a principle, a decision, and a choice you make freely; that is why it will never end.

You mentioned that you always pray asking God to reveal His will to you. You should not only pray, but trust that if things did not work out; it is still God's will. Don't be discouraged.

King Solomon said, "To everything, there is a season and a time to every purpose under the Heaven. A time to be born and a time to die, a time to plant and a time to pluck up that which was planted, a time to weep, and a time to laugh..." (Ecclesiastes 3:1-4). This means that everything will be done in the "fullness of time" and according to God's plan.

Our culture and the society we live in have changed their perspective concerning unmarried men and women...Pray and read the Holy Bible for direction. Be sure that in the "fullness of time" you will have your answer. Trust that God will guide you; so you can handle what He intended for you.