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Previously, I lived a life of sin away from the Orthodox Church (I have since repented). At this time I also had a lot of influence. I came to know that since I influenced/corrupted some people to start sinning, I am now carrying their sin. If I repent and confess of being a bad influence, do I no longer carry their sin; or do I carry their sin forever and gain sin every time they do the sin that I influenced them to do? If it is the latter, how can I fix the situation?

Repentance can take several forms. One can repent just to save himself. God is willing to accept the minimum like the prodigal son that returned and repented because of his needs, not so much because of his love for his father. Only when he realized he was in dire need, did he decide to return and apologize: "How many of my father's hired servants have bread enough and to spare, and I perish with hunger! I will arise and go to my father, and will say to him, 'Father, I have sinned against heaven and before you.'" (Luke 15:17-18). Thus, you can apologize, feel remorse, confess, and move on. These are the expected steps. There is no doubt that this approach is accepted. However, God loves a contrite heart, as David the prophet prayed in Psalm 51 (NKJV):
"The sacrifices of God are a broken spirit, a broken and a contrite heart-these, O God, You will not despise" (Psalm 51:17).

These are also the poor in spirit that the Lord praised in the Beatitudes (Matthew 5:3):
"Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven."

Thus, heartfelt contrition takes into consideration all the pain and suffering inflicted on others, including abandoning them in sin, and the ripple effect of all those involved. We learn a valuable lesson from Zacchaeus, the once greedy little man, that rose in stature in Christ's eyes because of his genuine willingness and action to correct and restore the consequences of his mistakes, and clearly conveyed his contrite confession to the Lord: "Look, Lord, I give half of my goods to the poor; and if I have taken anything from anyone by false accusation, I restore fourfold" (Luke 19:8).

David's relationship with Bathsheba rightly drew much criticism. When confronted by Nathan (cf. 2 Samuel 12), David was overwhelmed by guilt. He was extremely remorseful and wept in prayer (Psalm 6:6):
"I am weary with my groaning; all night I make my bed swim; I drench my couch with my tears."  

Nonetheless, David did not abandon Bathsheba. Rather, he took care of her, and no mention of committing further sins between them was ever made in the Holy Scripture. Therefore, David's contrite heart and earnest attempt to correct and restore the damage to which he contributed, won him great favor with God.

You are not responsible for anyone's refusal to repent. Everyone has a free will. St. Augustine could have blamed his father for his negative influence on him and their refusal to accept Christianity. However, when St. Augustine drew near to Christ, believed, and repented, he was no longer blind to God's grace. Thus, his new life demonstrated his love for God, and at the end of his father's life, his father finally believed in God (cf. Confessions of St. Augustine).

If it is within your means to reach out to those who may have been corrupted by your influence, do so. If not, pray for them earnestly. It is you who stands to gain exceeding joy by pleasing God.