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I have been in a relationship for almost two years with an amazing, godly, Coptic girl. However, recently we were told by her father of confession that we should break up. So, we did it, although I did not want this. We are not yet twenty years of age. I do not plan on pushing her out forever but every time I see her or go to a church meeting, I miss her and it hurts me because I worry that God may never unite us again. I decided to take a break from talking to her at least until my emotions calm down a little, but I do want a future with her, maybe when we are a little older and a little more mature. However, I do not know if she will still care for me in the meantime.

Pray that God will give you a heart that desires His will, not merely fulfilling yours. You will know that you are over this relationship when you can talk to each other kindly and respectfully once again. It is not for you to worry that God will or will not reunite you. That is preferring your will over God's will, which is contrary to the Lord's Prayer: "Thy will be done". At your age now, you have other matters that need your attention and energy: your spiritual life, education, and career. It is not the right time to romanticize this relationship nor plan for the future together with any certainty or wishful thinking. Pray that God will fill your hearts with His peace, rather than these temporary feelings.