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There is this family in my church whom I look up to. But lately, the father, a Godly, wise servant has done or said things that seem to be not completely spiritual; though, not completely sinful. It has been a real stumbling block for me. I want to free myself of the bond of needing people to look up to, to have the faith to rely on God only without doubt or worry, no matter what goes on around me. What should I do?

There is nothing wrong in looking up to someone spiritual and taking them as a role model. Our Lord Jesus Christ commanded us to be role models and light to the world "Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works and glorify your Father in heaven" (Mt 5:16).

The fact that you have seen something in this person that you did not expect of him, does not mean that he is not spiritual; because every person has his own weaknesses. This should not make you change your mind about him; but you should pray for him to overcome these flukes.

Your faith in God should not be affected by such incidents; and as you struggle to keep your faith strong in the Lord, be an imitator of Christ. Just as He talked to the Samaritan woman disregarding her sinful life; so should you disregard this person's flaws and focus on his good qualities.

Your relationship with the Lord is a personal experience that should not be affected by those around you. The closer you get to God; the stronger your relationship with Him will grow.

Prayer and reading the Holy Bible and spiritual books will help you in this journey.